Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
You have probably wondered why is it that even if a person seems to do “everything right”, they still have illnesses, pain, or difficult circumstances in life. The answer is simple – because prior to incarnation we set up certain challenges as part of our journey here.
These challenges then act like magnets, which attract situations to us, so we can experience them, resolve them, and learn and grow the Soul-Self through them. The Soul’s unique “signature” is the energy pattern woven from these awakenings.
There is no ultimate “right” – the ideas about “right and wrong” are usually based on social consciousness. The inner voice of truth changes depending on the level of consciousness of the listener.
Difficulties are part of the journey of Soul awakening, but they do not have to be “suffering”, they are lessons to grow through.
Our problems start NOT when we encounter uncomfortable experiences, but when we get STUCK in them.
Encountering an uncomfortable, or difficult, or even painful internal or external situation is part of the awakening journey – it is our resistance to that event that creates a detour. Detours are painful – not only because we prolong the painful situation, but also because they generate confusion and lost-ness, further distracting us from our journey (life’s purpose!)
If one resists the challenging situation, which has arrived into one’s life, one becomes entangled in it – and attracts negativity that matches the problem, instead of the Light that matches the solution.
We resist our lessons by:
- Believing the literal meaning of the events – trying to solve the situation, rather than to learn about life;
- Allowing the emotional response to the event to take over – that is the “fluid overwhelm”, the over-focusing on the emotion which only amplifies the difficulty (too much energy in the emotional and astral bodies, not enough in the mental and conceptual bodies);
- Freezing up – hiding from emotion, avoiding it, attempting to stoically not feel;
- Pushing against the event by becoming frustrated or angry – that is an attempt to create distance from the event, a separation of Self and its’ creation (in that moment we forget that we are the creators of the event because it is our energy that attracted it to us in the first place!);
- Judging and blaming others – a victim mentality of “It’s all their fault! I had nothing to do with it! It happened to me!” This is an attempt to put responsibility for the difficulty onto someone else;
- Judging and blaming self – a collapse response of “It’s all my fault! I can’t do anything right!” This is an attempt to relinquish self-responsibility by proclaiming yourself to be incapable (which is based on the emotional defense strategy of “if I believe I will fail why bother trying, and if I do not try, I cannot fail”).
When one’s not-wanting-to-experience what one is experiencing becomes habitual, one grows stuck in the resistance. Any and all resistance is futile – it only leads to more pain. Thus a great life is not about “never experiencing pain, difficulties, discomfort, etc.” but about facing what we attract to ourselves (internally and externally) without resistance – this generates wisdom and awakens the Soul within us.
Based on “Self-Design” chapter of “Awakening the Harmony Within”.