Why Do People Trigger Me So Much,
and How Do I Stop Reacting?
- You’re a spiritual, self-aware, loving person. You do the inner work.
- You meditate, reflect, journal, and try to be a conscious human being.
- You deeply care about others.
And yet… some people drive you up the wall.
Maybe it’s the inconsiderate ones who bulldoze their way through life without a second thought for anyone else.
Maybe it’s the selfish ones who take and take, never reciprocating.
Maybe it’s the ones who are so unconscious that they can’t see how their actions impact others.
Or maybe it’s when someone disrespects you, doesn’t hear you, doesn’t acknowledge your effort, takes you for granted, or worse — expects you to take care of them without a shred of self-responsibility.
And suddenly, there it is.
That intense reaction bubbling up inside you.
You feel angry. Annoyed. Frustrated. Judgmental. Maybe even like a victim of their unconsciousness.
Then, you judge yourself for judging.
Because, after all, you’re supposed to be a spiritual person, right? 😬
So, what’s actually happening here?
Why do some people trigger you so much? And more importantly — how do you stop reacting?
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The Hidden Truth About Triggers: It’s About Authority
Here’s the hard truth:
Your biggest triggers are reflections of where you’re not standing in your own Authority.
When someone triggers you, it’s not really about them.
It’s about your projection of Authority onto them — your power given away, unconsciously.
Think about it:
- If you feel controlled by someone, it’s often because you’re not fully owning your free will choice.
- If you feel disrespected, it may be because you’re still waiting for external validation instead of standing in your own worth.
- If you feel burdened by people’s needs, it’s likely because you’ve taken responsibility for them instead of standing in your own boundary.
- If you feel judgmental, it’s often because a part of you isn’t giving yourself permission to be what you’re judging in them.
This is the dynamic of projected Authority.
Instead of being in Higher Self Authority, where you are in full command of your own choices, reactions, and energy — you unknowingly let others dictate your internal state.
And the way the Universal Law works…
Whatever part of you isn’t fully owned, you will see reflected in others
— and it will piss you off. 😅
The reason a trigger feels so powerful is because it happens fast.
It’s a reaction, NOT a choice.
Reaction is when your subconscious programming kicks in. It feels automatic, like you have to feel this way.
But you don’t.
Choice is power.
Choice is a conscious response.
Choice is Authority.
Your Higher Self doesn’t react — it navigates.
It sees what’s happening and decides how to engage with it.
Reaction vs. Choice: The Key to Ending the Cycle
Let’s look at three key areas:
- What Authority is energetically and how to activate it
- How to recognize the four most common Authority projections
- How to shift from reacting to responding/choosing
Let’s unpack:
What is Authority energetically?
It’s an alignment — both energetically and psychologically.
Energetically, Authority is you being fully grounded with strong vertical energy running through your central channel like a powerful engine. Key chakras involved:
- Solar Plexus – clarity of who you are.
- Heart (front and back) – compassion and willpower.
- Root & Crown – strong vertical connection.
Psychologically, Authority is navigating from your Higher Self identity.
This doesn’t mean your fears and issues disappear, it means they become a well-parented inner child while you act as the grown-up. 😉
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The Four Most Common Authority Projections
1️⃣ Feeling controlled >> It might feel like someone is trying to control you, manipulate you, or impose their will on you.
Unless someone is physically controlling you (which is abuse, and NOT what we’re talking about), this dynamic only exists if you’ve unconsciously given away your Authority.
No one can psychologically control, manipulate, or emotionally abuse you—without your permission.
If you don’t believe you have the right to make your own choices even if someone else is upset or disappointed, you abdicate that Authority to them.
✅ Solution:
- Stop managing the other person’s emotions — let them feel their dissatisfaction.
- Ask yourself: What do I actually want in this situation? If you don’t decide, they will decide for you.
2️⃣ Feeling disrespected and judged >> Someone is putting you down, dismissing your value, or misjudging you. It hurts because it’s hooking into your own self-worth wobble.
Their judgment doesn’t actually define you—but if it resonates with a hidden insecurity, it will feel like they have power over you.
Their words or actions towards you don’t cause disrespect – but when you allow their judgment to resonate with an unconscious part of yourself that is still waiting for external validation instead of standing in your own worth – that’s when it hurts.
Your own not-enoughness issue becomes a frequency match for someone else’s projection – and this is where they gain Authority to disrespect you with.
The truth is – no one can disrespect you without your permission 😉 If you don’t believe you are enough, feel yourself diminished in a specific circle of people or level of society – you have something for the negative person to hook into.
✅ Solution:
- Remind yourself: They have an opinion, not the truth.
- Recognize that their judgment is about them, not you.
- Reaffirm your own worth—without waiting for them to see it.
3️⃣ Feeling burdened by people’s needs >> You feel like everyone expects your support and patience, and perhaps that you will “save the day”… You might even volunteer most of the time. They expect your help, and you keep saying yes—even when it drains you.
This feeling burdened and drained is a result of over-helping and rescuing people from their own lessons.
This experience of your good nature being taken advantage of is a reflection of how you’ve taken responsibility for them instead of standing in your own boundary.
Your unconscious beliefs might be:
- “I’m a good person, so I should help.”
- “It’s easy for me, so why not?”
- “If I don’t, who will?”
The root issue? An intolerance for other people’s discomfort.
Why? Because of the belief that if everyone is ok, then you are finally safe, you can relax.
And so you feel responsible for making everything okay—at the cost of your own energy.
✅ Solution:
- Recognize that it’s not about the other person’s situation but about you feeling unsafe.
- Set clear boundaries without guilt – so you are safe and respecting the lessons of others.
4️⃣ Being judgmental >> You find yourself frustrated with people who you see as selfish, inconsiderate, or unconscious.
The reason? You haven’t given yourself permission to be what you’re judging in them.
We don’t judge what we’re truly at peace with—we judge what we secretly want, or what we fear.
✅ Solution:
- Ask yourself: “Is there a part of me that secretly wishes I could be that free?”
- Recognize that judgment = projection. What is this mirroring back to me?
- Shift to curiosity instead of judgment: “What can I learn from this?”
How to Break free from Reaction into Choice?
It all comes down to shifting from reaction to choice.
Here’s a simple 3-step checklist to realign your Authority:
Step 1: Recognize When You’re Projecting Authority
Pause and ask: “Why is this triggering me so much? What is this hooking inside me?”
Identify which of the 4 main Authority projections is at play:
- Feeling controlled
- Feeling disrespected/judged
- Feeling used/burdened
- Feeling judgmental of others
Instead of staying fixated on them, turn inward: “Where am I giving my power away in this situation?”
Step 2: Shift Your Identity to the Higher Self
Are you reacting from your wounded Inner Child, seeking validation, fairness, or protection?
Or are you responding from your Higher Self, who has nothing to prove, no need to control others, and is fully sovereign?
Choose: “I don’t need them to change for me to be at peace.”
Step 3: Own Your Boundaries Without Victimhood
Breathe into your Vertical Tube—activate your inner vertical flow and reinforce the “egg-shell” boundary of your energy field.
Ask yourself powerful Authority-reclaiming questions:
- Am I worrying about their reaction more than my happiness?
- Where am I still insecure about my worth?
- Where am I waiting for permission to be heard?
- Where do I need to set better boundaries?
- Am I enabling instead of empowering?
This isn’t about controlling others—it’s about choosing your own alignment so that no one else dictates your emotional state.
Authority is your choice. Unapologetically own it🔥
Owning Your Authority = Emotional Freedom
At the end of the day, your triggers show you where you have an opportunity to reclaim your power.
The goal isn’t to never get triggered again—you’re human. The goal is to not stay stuck in the reaction.
Instead of getting tangled in others’ unconsciousness, you rise above it.
✔️ You stop trying to fix people and start leading by example.
✔️ You stop waiting to be seen and start validating yourself.
✔️ You stop over-giving and start honoring your own boundaries.
And when you do this, people lose power to trigger you – because you’re no longer waiting for them to change in order for you to be free.
You’re already free — because you’ve claimed your own Authority.
Next Steps: Fully Owning Your Authority
If you’ve read this far, something in you already knows—this is the work you’ve been called to do.
You feel the shift happening inside you. The moments when you almost hold your ground but still second-guess yourself. The times you recognize your triggers but still react. The deep pull to lead, yet something keeps you on the edge instead of fully stepping in.
So the real question is:
✅ Are you ready to stop waiting for the world to give you permission?
✅ Are you done outsourcing your power to others—whether through validation, avoidance, or old karmic loops?
✅ Are you ready to own your Divine Authority and start making the impact you KNOW you’re here to make?
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