Stop Getting Drained:
Take Back Your Energy
and Become Unfuckwithable.

Let’s look at the 3 types of most common false boundaries so you can recognize them: Anger, Shame, Disassociation. Let’s unpack:

🔱 ANGER is a natural defense mechanism, and sometimes, a firewall is needed as an immediate response to an actively dangerous situation. But…

Most people use anger incorrectly — not as a momentary charge to realign, but as a habitual stance against life itself.

Anger can be a purifier — when used as a sharp, clean “No” to misalignment. A split-second spark of fire to redefine your space.

In the energy field, it can appear as a flash of Fire Element across the astral level or as a temporary Fire Wall—a Fire Element ‘shell’ around your energy field. But this is meant to last only for a few seconds as a statement of personal sovereignty. If this is maintained longer – it becomes detrimental to you, and now drains your life force instead of supporting you.

But habitual anger? (and with it habitual negative Fire Element stuck inside of you):

• It turns into a chronic rejection of life.
• It builds a wall that keeps you stuck in victimhood.
• It makes someone else responsible for your experience (blame).
• What Sovereignty with Fire looks like in the positive:

✅ When sovereignty is real, you don’t need anger to enforce it because your Fire Element is healthy. Your presence itself is the boundary.

• • Instead of defending your energy, you simply do not attract invasions.
  • Instead of over-explaining yourself, you radiate energetic clarity that others respect without words.

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🔱 SHAME is a defense mechanism that kicks in when you feel like you’re not living up to who you believe you should be. For example, you believe you should be strong, smart, brave, loving – and then your current life experiences don’t match this, and the response is shame with when acts as a false boundary to protect you from external punishment – you end up punishing yourself.

This distortion often starts in childhood — when you did something wrong, and parents or teachers punished you with harsh words, withdrawal of attention, or other consequences. And overtime we learn to self-police: we apply shame as a self-punishment.

If this is your habitual false boundary choice, this means you are policing yourself into blocking love from the Universe.

In the energy field, Shame boundary looks like a negative Water Element – instead of a “lake” it starts to look and feel like a “swamp”, muddy, dark, heavy. This heaviness serves as a false boundary, blocking external love – aka self-punishment for being not good enough.

• It turns into a chronic not-good-enoughness.
• It blocks you from support and loving resolution of your lessons.
• It punishes you as a habit based on someone elses idea of who you should be.
• What Sovereignty with healthy Water looks like:

✅ When sovereignty is real, you don’t need to self-police – you self-define and self-navigate. Your presence is self-loving while self- responsible.

• • Instead of punishing yourself, you question and modify your beliefs.
  • Instead of drowning in feeling bad you open to see yourself as a Divine Being and thus able to critically address any shortcomings while acknowledge strengths.

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🔱 DISASSOCIATION is a defense against intense feelings. It’s often used as a boundary to separate from circumstances we don’t like, and it’s an automatic response when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or in pain.

As you well know, we are only able to move thru the lesson if we allow ourselves to fully experience it. when we face difficult life circumstances – from a confrontation when someone maybe is angry at you, to challenge like speaking your truth or having to make a decision – if you have a strong boundary, you can deal with the difficulty. If you have a weak or no boundary, you might doubt your capacity to handle the situation – and this is where disassociation comes in.

In other words, if disassociation becomes a constant habit, you won’t just struggle to process life’s lessons—you’ll struggle to fully live your life at all! Yet so many people spend their life in this disassociating boundary which makes them numb and avoidant of living. People like that are afraid of living more than death itself.

Disassociation is a distortion of the Air Element — when we mentally ‘check out’ instead of staying present with what’s happening.

If this is your habitual false boundary choice, its like living in the house with all the lights dimmed at all times. Universe, your Guides, your own Soul, cannot be heard.

In the energy field, Disassociation boundary looks like a negative Air Element – aka ungroundedness. The lower part of the field is “empty” and the movement of energy is minimal, nothing is circulating, the field can even appear frozen.

• It turns into a chronic numbness and avoidance
• It blocks you from having any positive emotions like joy, love, play – and results in depression.
• It limits your capacity to process energy – becoming a self-fulfilling prophesy since the defense is based on the belief that you are not capable of handling what is coming.
• What Sovereignty with healthy Air looks like:

✅ When sovereignty is real, you don’t need to leave your body. You allow the circumstances to unfold, experiencing at the pace that you control, and uncover within yourself hidden reserves, gifts, and talents to handle the lessons.

• • Instead of withdrawing you face life at your own pace, being in control of what enters your domain – you don’t block it, you measure it as you deal with it.
  • Instead of slowing down or freezing the flow of emotion, you allow yourself to feel and uncover new depths while also being open to support from people, your Guides, the Universe.